About The Blogger

My name is Tammy and I've been blogging for over a decade now. I work full-time in my dream company while juggling love, life, this cute blog and a blogger's community called The Butterfly Project. People often tell me that I'm a wonder woman, but in reality - if it's something you love, you can do wonders.

When I'm not wondering, I'll be on my computer searching for the next fountain of youth or hunting down a fantastic deal. I'm also a shopaholic, wanderluster, spa enthusiast and proud hipster who loves planning special occasions and surprises for her loved ones.
  • Top 10 Female Bloggers in Malaysia
  • Founder of The Butterfly Project Malaysia
  • Winner of Cleo's Next Top Blogger Malaysia 2011

  • Get Over It


    if getting over is that easy, World War II would've been forgotten

    I still wake up, terrified of what happened to me in the past. Of the unfairness, of the betrayal, stripped off my innocence in believing in a person whom I thought was forever. I wonder if many of you experience the same too, sweat, fear, and this chunk of blackness in your stomach. Yes, this is the story of how sometimes, I wake up thanking God that I have survived such a trauma.

    Even writing about it, makes me fear "his friends" whom I know, did not understand what I went through. Males, what would they know until they throw away their sheltered ego? The words "Get Over It" uttered so simply, so easy, like the world could move on from World War II. If it was only that easy.

    I still remember it was just right after I was asked to move out from a home that I've built with him. Nowhere to go. So much on my shoulders. The love, the support, and a dream all shattered in just one sms "GET THE F*** OUT OF MY HOUSE". No one knows, the pain I carry.

    And yet, "Still Not Over It?!" came from one of his friends, merely weeks after I left.

    Till today, this word still haunts me. It stopped me from talking about what happened. Why should it? What power does it hold? Has the person been through what I have to even quote it?

    Men who say "Get Over It" are cowards
    whose balls are sheltered by their mummies.

    It is not that I can forget 13 years in a flash. They say the formula for moving on is to divide the number of years in a relationship in half. I think it really depends? For instance, when I didn't know the real reason for the sudden change of heart, I just couldn't believe, even logically what has happened. But the minute I found the scandalous chats between him and his newfound China love interest, I got "over it".

    I recognize the same ways he used to court me, to this girl and to the next. The same personality test, the same "You make me feel relax", the same modus operandi and then, some more. The same perversion he put me through.

    Trust turns to dust.
    Love turned to disgust.

    You know, when a woman has given up on you, it really means it's over. They couldn't care less if you died. Sure, they could forgive you for the first few rounds, but when they start seeing you for who you are, there would not be a turning point back.

    Which comes to my ending, I got over it but the trauma is something I can't control. It sometimes haunts you in your dreams, and you relive that moment again. The moment of betrayal.

    But you know what? Betrayal is a powerful antidote to a women's long slumber.

    How Did You Get Over It?


    1. It's some thing said, just to make them sound like they are in control...but they don't realise that it is the complete opposite. Sad to see this kind of men grow up this way...

    2. Oh Tammy! I read ur blog since i came accross ur review on going to warehouse sales which is soo many of it at that time, which made me read all your post in your blog since from the beginning! We even chatted via fb messenger (dont know if u remember me) when i found out about what happen to u with that urgh guy in ur post. I felt the happiness when u show us the ring and felt angered by the following post came later. Oh Tammy, when u met Baby G, i really think that u two are meant for each other. Im so happy for u. If u asked me how did i get over a broken relay? Determination, force myself to chose happiness and love. Though time may not heel the broken pieces of me quickly, but with the right person, i'll manage and b happy again. And yes im happy now with 3 beautiful children and i hope you will too soon! Happy CNY Tammy, and yeah its true! Man who says get over it? Are cowards and full of egos. And if the shits happen to turn the table on them, lets see how they pull the get over it statement.

    3. I remember a friend of mine found out the scandal between her soon to be husband another two weeks. She prepared so much and excited for the wedding to come. She even love him to the extend taking care of that fella's parent even before marry . She disappear after she found out. Worried all friends.Wedding plans got cancelled. After more 10 years she came back with loving husband and baby with her.We so relief she move on very well and found her own happiness. That fella who betray her and stabbed brutally? I am glad to hear the new he got married and now a divorcee. Serve him right! God pay cash nowadays!


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