07 Oct 14
people will stare, make it worth their while - Tammy
Who knew my life would take a turn for the worst, and yet become the best thing that has ever happened to me. I missed the best years of my youth, blind folded in the dark, crossing each emotional whirlwind holding my heart in my hand. The day I started The Butterfly Project was the day I unknowingly walk towards that great despair, only to discover the strength I have to face the unknown. Did I regret throwing that pebble into the pond that ripples into the future? I asked myself repeatedly in August.
The answer is no.
I would never give up something I love. Love shouldn't hold you back from doing great work, no matter how insignificant it may be. Steve Jobs said, "The only way to do great work is to love what you do".
Miraculously, I survived a life challenge that did not paralyze me. A long-term relationship of 13 years (engaged) was out of my system in a matter of 2 months. For the first time in my life, I felt freedom as an individual. I felt released and free to be me. No more fears, no more control, no more serving and submitting to this “person”. The constant verbal and emotional abuse from him, made me stronger. For this, I forgive and thank him for teaching me a valuable lesson in love, life and relationships.
the Butterfly Project Girls Night Out
To celebrate my newfound status, I met up with TGV Malaysia's PR Manager Regina and proposed a celebration that mimics the freedom and luxury of being a woman in this century inspired by my favorite show - Sex & The City. It would be called, The Butterfly Girls Night Out. An elevated experience at Indulge by TGV Malaysia where butterflies would turn heads that night.
TGV Malaysia 'Indulge' luxury cinema experience
The night would start with foreplay of soft jazz music, a round of mocktails and a tantalizing 10-course fine dining ballad that ends with a cinematic seduction watching Scarlet Johansen's “Lucy” in the luxury cinematic hall – Indulge.
a fine dining experience without the fine dining price tag
jazz music in the background
thanks TGV Malaysia for the hospitality!
(popcorn, drinks, desserts served during movie)
check out my fluffy blanket yay!
(cannot bring back)
Being a visionary, I wasn’t satisfied just with that. Calls were made to Muse by Watsons (Watson’s Luxury Store) who generously sponsored 3 best dressed hampers worth RM1k and skincare products for invited guests. Next were to include a photobooth experience to recreate that red carpet paparazzi feel so I contacted 123Cheese.com.my (by far the best & most fun photobooth service I have used).
Muse by Watsons, our goodie bag sponsor
this is the exact copy of the photobooth print
(instagram design)
once a while, I'll glam up for a special night
Now what’s missing? Oh a makeover to make everyone scream that night when they see me welcoming them in Indulge. Who better to set an example of a Girl’s Night Out experience? Boy did I have fun turning heads and shocking everyone who did not realize it was me.
it feels good to be me again
In the end, it’s not going to matter how many breaths you took, but how many moments took your breath away.
XOXO,
Tammy
Founder of The Butterfly Project
Malaysia's leading beauty & lifestyle bloggers community
Malaysia's leading beauty & lifestyle bloggers community
P.S: Many thanks to TGV Malaysia, Muse by Watson, 123Cheese.com.my, volunteers who helped out that night and butterflies for supporting The Butterfly Project. It’s been hell of a great year ☺
Indulge, TGV Malaysia
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Funny how I have the same quote on my instagram profile! Great minds think alike huh ;-)
ReplyDeleteit's a great quote to pass on! Great minds think alike *high 5*
Deletefun night :D indulgence 1U, very nice :D.. nice pics u have here..
ReplyDeletemiss hang out with Butterflies and Mamasan :D
fun indeed, you have already experience Indulge so I couldn't invite u lagi :( pics are taken by my iphone and some are taken by Caroline for butterfly (the ones with watermark @butterflymsia)
DeleteNever give up, mamasan! We'll be here for you! <3
ReplyDeleteI haven't given up, even in my darkest hour I still fight on. Thank you for being here for me.
DeleteMust have took you hell a lot of courage to breakaway from a person whom you've been almost half of your life! But definitely worth the applause because you were made to realise that this is not the person who will be your pillar when there is none other in this world. Like honestly, I believe a life partner should always be there to support no matter what..
ReplyDeleteA great applause to your achievement and how much you have proven that what you did has been leading you to the right path all these while :)
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Patricia, thank you so much for your encouragement, compliment and support *sniff sniff*
DeleteIt took more than courage, I had mental breakdown and was going insane the first 2 months. It has affected my sleeping pattern, though not bad as I sleep 3-5 hours only nowadays waking up at the crack of dawn. I kept the community going and put on a brave face for my fellow friends, bloggers and butterflies. No one knew what I went through as I did not openly share my pain.
However now, a supportive life partner is definitely on my list to look out for. Once bitten twice shy. It will take some time for me to open up again to another man but it doesn't matter :) as I don't need a man right now.
Big congratulation to you for your achievement in life. I wish you more success in future too.
ReplyDeleteThank you Cindy, sometimes success can just be the smiles I see on your face.
DeleteTammy girl, i had experienced pretty much the same without me initiating something big like butterfly project. That's what makes u special, special. Congratulations!!!
ReplyDeleteI feel special already reading your comment, thank you Jannah hugs
DeleteI saw your strengths in this entry.
ReplyDeleteYeah, I wrote it with strength.. lol
DeleteYou did well mama san! Let's lead a happy full of energetic & cheerful life together! We are always there to support you.. ^_^
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Thank you Rosmiza, let's do that :) and thank you for your support <3
Deletei love you babe, you will always have my support! xoxo
ReplyDeleteI love you too Sabby, thank you for your unconditional support <3
DeleteWhat won't break you will only make you stronger, as you have shown. So immensely proud of you for holding true to what you believe in, and for emerging a victor! Love you babe! xo
ReplyDeleteI still remember what you shared to me last year about that control freak x of yours. You being strong was one of the thoughts I hold on to :) thank you Kiersten.
DeleteAnd if you ever need to lean on me for strength (or anything else for that matter!), you know I'm just a phone call away. Take care, and enjoy life! :) xx
Deletethank you my dear Kiersten... <3 love you hugs
DeleteGanbatte Mamasan~
ReplyDeletethank you dear Audrey *hugs*
DeleteOh mai! I didn't know there was a story behind this outing! I know how it feels like, being torn about leaving a relationship you have been comfortable with for half your life (mine was 9 years). What will come next will soon be far more greater than what you can ever imagine, trust me! I experienced it first hand and it could only get better!
ReplyDeleteCheers to you Tammy and believing in what you do! We are all here to support you and the team!! Much love!
Grace, my heart goes out to you too. 9 years and 13 years, sounds like we lost half of our lives together lol. Thanks for the encouragement *hugs*, I believe it will definitely be better as we grow. Happy for you that you got over that episode and currently happy with your beau.
DeleteI don't normally share things like this, but I wanted to so others could be strong like me to get over a traumatic experience.
The Tammy that standing in front of us this day is indeed a great woman that I probably never imagined, you are a great role model for the bloggers out there to find their success future, I gave myself a jaw dropping at the moment I realized how strong a woman can be, like you...Thanks Tammy for everything, even though I did't join that nite, but allowing me to be a butterfly is the most warmest thing I already have from you..I never have so much fun in blogging before I joined Butterfly project, you are the person who made that happen and I'm so grateful for ever knowing & meeting u..I've been your silent reader since such a long time ago..and I never thought that we will meet at all and on top of that, I never thought that I'am now being a blogger too, at that time I've already started to like you too..be strong Tammy, because you are, the strength that you have shown today proved that the women is strong, I understand how it fees like even though I never experience a torn up relationship. we will support you no matter what!!
ReplyDeleteDear Pinku, I'm so grateful and happy to have met you too. I didn't know you were reading and as a blogger (you & me) knowing someone reads your blog and like you is the happiest things to happen. I was weak, so weak but I picked myself up and face the harsh reality. It's not easy but it can be overcome and we will be stronger than ever. The feeling, I don't wish for it to happen to anyone I know T__T choose a good guy Pinku.
DeleteMany hugs and kisses to the sweetest girl I know :*
I'm speechless, Tammy!
ReplyDeleteI had an inkling that there was some big changes in your life hinted at on an FB post here and there but as it's so hard for me to schedule my life to some Butterfly events sometimes, I don't see you often so I had no idea there was all this happening backstage.
The name Butterfly truly epitomises you, then. Emerging from a cocoon and becoming even more fabulous. I mean, you've been on TV and almost everywhere now! What is next?! Go forth, and fly, girl!
P.S. You're also looking younger by the day! I'm jealous, babe. Can't wait to see you again in person.
Totally, your ex's loss and your gain.
Yeah I didn't really disclose what's going on in my life, this is just one of the issues I face in my rship and that is already emotionally draining. Butterfly will be here, as long as I live LOL don't worry about not being able to actively join us. Even on our FB, your voice matters. Now I never thought of that.. (butterfly) and it does fit the life changing experience I'm facing. My goal is to elevate Butterfly and I hope :) it will grow larger with beautiful people like you.
DeleteP.S: I think it's the weight loss that made me look younger haha.. or the change in my life, has released me from aging. I'm on a rewind now :) exploring and experiencing life from where I left it.
Thanks for the love & support, you're also young and bubbly at your age! Inspiring woman :) we need to catch up when we meet again. Would love to get to know you more.
woohooo!!
ReplyDeleteok, you make me feel like I should start blogging again, Miu.
Maybe I will!
how did that happen lol
Delete'Jia You' Stay Strong
ReplyDeletethank you dear!!!!!!!!!
DeleteNever give up Tammy!!and live your life to the fullest...dont let people around u, take over your journey of life... (^_^)
ReplyDeleteAlyza *hugs* I won't ever give up and I'll live my life to the fullest. Nobody shall take over my life again.
DeleteCool event! and stay strong Tammy. There's always a silver lining in every cloud. You'll make it through just fine. :)
ReplyDeleteAisyah, thank you :) I will be *hugs* I am :) actually
DeleteStay strong Tammy!
ReplyDeleteI can see that The Butterfly Girls Night Out is s great event, I wish I am in KL and can join event like this. We hardly have events like this in Penang.
Anyway, this post inspired me, especially your courage and determination. Good luck! :D
Hi Karyn Yee,
DeleteIf only I could organized an event in Penang with the support of brands who would be interested. I'll definitely bring Butterfly Project there. Atm we have offline projects that caters to any bloggers in Msia but that's from time to time.
Thanks Kharn Yee for being inspired by my post. Means a lot to me.
You are one very inspiring lady! Thank you for all the hardwork and I'm proud to be your butterflie. Trust me, u will meet someone better. 👍
ReplyDeletethank you Elana for being my butterfly <3 I wouldn't have able to be this strong without you girls
DeleteHello tammy!
ReplyDeleteYour posts and entries are always inspiring and oohlala! Good job and keep it up girl!
Congrats on gaining back the freedom you deserve. You have a whole lot of wonderful things awaiting to be unwrapped by you and definitely a better future ahead of you.
Btw you look gorgeous!!! Stay strong stay joyful and stay just the way you are, fabulous!!
Really Catheryn?! thank you. I'll try to blog more :) it's just so hard without internet at my new rented place. Life's starting at a rewind for me and I'm experiencing everything new at my age & will cherish every single experience I encounter.
DeleteFreedom has never tasted better. Thank you hun, I feel great too.
Didn't there was a story behind it. But nonetheless, it was a great night and you nailed it right to the core. Thanks tammy! Will keep on supporting you <3
ReplyDeleteEach project there's a story actually. I always look for something inspiring to work with brands for the community. It's just so hard this year with all that has happened.
DeleteGlad you enjoyed the night and thank you so much Izzah for being a volunteer <3
Aah I could sense somehow thru those events & words. I am glad that you have morphed yourself into a fine Butterfly.
ReplyDeleteUniting with others, so much of positive energies, so much of uniqueness yet similarities.
You are all Butterflies. So fly on Tammy!
Have your adventures, spread your wings & suck the nectar of life!
Thank you for sharing your life with us :)
It took much courage to open up, even if it's just a glimpse of what's going on in my life. I'm glad that it has touched many and gave strength to those who need it. If I can survive this life challenge, anyone can.
DeleteSpreading my wings with you girls. Thank you for listening.
looks like a super fun night! the photobooth printout is super nice!!! too bad I missed it, else i will be celebrating birthday with u girls.. =p
ReplyDeleteWish you were there Jean! but anyway Happy Belated Birthday my dear friend.
DeleteI read the entire post, and the comments as well. This post is certainly very inspiring I like the opening of this post. Thanks for being a great one, and you really look prettier in this pic! You should dress up more often! I wish that I would have chance to see you again!
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