About The Blogger

My name is Tammy Lim and I am an award winning blogger from Top 10 Malaysia Magazine and Cleo Malaysia Magazine. I have been blogging since 2008 and I am also the founder of a local Malaysian beauty & lifestyle community called The Butterfly Project. People often tell me that I'm a wonder woman, but in reality - if it's something you love, you can do wonders.

When I'm not wondering, I'll be on my computer searching for the next fountain of youth or hunting down a fantastic deal. I'm also a shopaholic, wanderluster, spa enthusiast and proud hipster who loves planning special occasions and surprises for her loved ones.
  • Top 10 Female Bloggers in Malaysia Award
  • Cleo's Next Top Blogger Malaysia Award
  • Founder of The Butterfly Project Malaysia

  • From my heart...


    Everyone who reads my blog thinks I happy fun girll but actually I am just a introvert, shy, timid and scared girl with actually no friends at all. I try to please everyone & I try to be friends with people I know especially my bf's friends. However, they don't seem to want to be my friends. I have invited a few that confirmed to attend but in the end they never showed up neither did they bothered to call me and wish me a happy birthday and a sorry I can't make it. Though it hurts that I'm just a nobody to them it, it angers me that people think it's ok to not show up after rsvp-ing to a party. The money I spent to prepare food for them and having them not coming after all or even bothered to let u know their can't is something to think about. I bet they never were going to give me any present at all too considering I'm such a lowly insignificant person.

    Sorry but I'm really a sensitive soul & if thoughts count. Their thoughts were nothing of me.

    (I feel much better now talking about it.. ty for listening)

    R.S.V.P. stands for a French phrase, "répondez, s'il vous plaît," which means "please reply." The person sending the invitation wo uld like you to tell him or her whether you accept or decline the invitation. That is, will you be coming to the event or not? Etiquette rules followed in most Western cultures require that if you receive a formal, written invitation, you should reply promptly, perhaps that same day. For hosts who are planning a dinner party, a wedding or a reception, this is important from a practical point of view, because they need to know how many people to count on and how much food and drink to buy. More important, though, is the simple courtesy of responding to someone who was nice enough to invite you, even if it is to say that you regret that you will not be able to attend.


    1. Jamie...so I am not your friend?.... I would never Rsvp unless I was able to come but you are right to vent some times friends are only their for the convenience and if you are expected to show up to where they are but only if it is convenient they will visit you!
      Take Heart my friend!

    2. hello sista, enough with the self wallowing. my whole bunch plus hurley were there despite our distance, right?

      and to think that we didn't even get to eat haagen daaz cake!!

      also, be like me lah, people don't want to fren, mah don't fren lah, no big deal, their loss, not yours. some people thought themselves too rich, too pretty, too handsome, too high class, blah blah blah, but end of the day, when you die, how many will turn up? those who turn up and stayed to mourn would really be your friend. sorry it sounded morbid but you don't need that many friends, just a few good one will lasts a whole lifetime. trust me, been there, done that.

    3. omg! I feel u babe!! =(

      i really hate it when someone who already reserved and then didn't show up! that's why i feel soooo bad when i couldn't attend to the movie u invited me d other day! bcuz i know, u hv reserved some tickets for me(instead of giving it to other people), and then i didnt come.. but seriously, i really really couldnt come last friday! =(
      im soo sorry miu!
      omg, i feel so bad now! =(

      anyway miu, u r just like me too, u know..
      i am shy, and scared girl too! (n not so many friends too!) hehe.. n i always try to please evryone in the world! (n i hate it very much! bcuz i always get sh*t from them..)

      sometimes i wonder, why in the world did i do that for? buy coffee for evryone, buy presents, buy this buy that..etc etc..

      and then they just forget my effort n time, etc.. and give me sh*ts and treat me so bad in return!! =(

      i hate these kinds of people!! they didn't even have the courtesy to say thank u or sorry for blabla..or whatsoever..

      well.. nevermind these kind of people miu, because im always here for u.. and im ur friend!! hehee ;)

    4. take it easy. i feel the same many times too. in the end, ull know yr true kawans :)

    5. RSVP? most malaysians dont know what RSVP is. its either they dont know or they couldnt care less. i've encountered numeorus times where they just come on the date itself without RSVPing coz according to them-whats the big deal? they've been invited in the 1st place. or like they've replied like they are coming but didnot show up and didnt even have the courtesy to inform that they couldnt make it. if its a small event ok lah-forgiveable,but for a wedding or a big gala thingy for instance, think of how much money & time is wasted- food,table seating & wat not.

      wether one is coming or not,one have to reply. coz if you are not coming and you did not reply, the other end wouldnt know,right? its not like they can read mind or have telepathy. thats why they have the "i will not/ cant attend" column in the 1st place.

      about the friend part,i feel u babe! i have friends but only a few can be called true friends. some only wants to take advantage,some only calls when they have problems,some only sticks during the happy times but quickly ran off when im in trouble.. i have also a few good frens that altho we did not meet up every now & then,we kind of know that we got each other no matter what,so an occasional "hi" or "how are u?" is good enuf for us. most of my frens have their own families now and i know how busy they are coz i've got my own family too. we may not call that often but as soon as we hear that one of us is in trouble,we'll drop by like immediately. im like that. im never good with keeping in touch but if anyone did call and need my help or anything,i will definitely help with watever i can.

      so,to me,just keep the good ones. the not so good ones-thrash them.. or cast them aside. or simply just ignore them. life's too short to worry about all those things. if they dont want to befriend you,hey,its their lost. really!

      so keep your chin-up babe, coz u have loads of others who wants to be your friend or already are. me included :)

    6. hey babe.

      you do have friends. loads of them, ok? and abt ppl not even bothering to RSVP... i think its not really part of this country's culture to reply.

      e.g - wedding invites (talking from my own experience). ppl hardly EVER reply. we had to make an estimation and prayed all the food would be enough.

      so don't take heart. trust the friends that KNOW you to know that you'd need ppl to RSVP.

      and, i'm sorry for not being able to come to ur bday party and stuff. but, i'm glad i told you i couldn't make it.

      stay the way you are, babe. you're rare AND one of a kind.


      love ya lots.

    7. dear Miu, I am the same kind of ppl like u, always have this problem... I agreed with d'Frog prince and after reading his write up, I feel better and hope you feel that way too. Take care and always remember those good one (like me hehe) will always here for you *muah*

    8. me no shy.. me no scared.. me juz wanna be ur fren. heyyy.. balik klang ah.. we go for hagan daz wif my little boy.. sure it wud be great. i really2 wanna know u in real world. and ur bro too.. hehehehe.. just kinddng.


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